Pressure to Engage?

They've been together since college and she wants to get married - he's not feeling it, but doesn't want to lose her. This is a question that has come up in my office - with the parties playing different roles - again and again for the last few years. The truth is that both parties are feeling pressure to get engaged - he gets it from her, and she gets it from everywhere else. Is it ideal? No, but it is reality. She can't ignore her feelings about being pressured, no more than he can ignore her feelings.